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Starting a New Year for me always involves looking back at the last year and thinking about new ways to move forward.  Lately, I have been working with a number of couples who are taking very positive steps in their lives to end their marriage.  Talk about a different way of looking forward!

How can anyone think a divorce is “positive”?  Isn’t that an oxymoron?  Well, no.  Sometimes people wake up and realize they are just in the wrong relationship when they look at each other.  Or one person decides they want to leave a relationship, and the other realizes that they need to let go.  Rather than getting angry and doing everything possible to destroy each other, such people decide to divorce in a way that helps them both move forward with as little trauma as possible.

Even with the decision to divorce with dignity, it may be difficult to figure out just how to do that.  You both may be committed to getting a divorce without a huge fight.  Yet there are big issues that you have to address before the marriage can end.  Maybe you have all of your retirement wrapped up in the wife’s 401(k) account and need to divide that between the two of you.  Or maybe you own a home together that is underwater.  Maybe there are special issues regarding your children that have to be addressed before you are comfortable with having them spend significant time with the other parent.  Sometimes it seems that, even if you want to work together, the only way to resolve anything is for one of you to get the short end of the stick.  That results in a fight starting even when neither person wants to fight.

That is where working with an attorney can help you out.  Whether the attorney is acting as a mediator – a third party neutral who is there to help you negotiate – or as a legal counselor – an attorney working for both of you and explaining the legal impact of your decisions as well as options you may not have thought about – or as a legal consultant – someone who can provide information about specific issues as they arise – an attorney can help you reach agreements that involve win-win solutions rather than I win and you lose scenarios.

I would love to work with couples who are committed to a divorcing with dignity and moving forward in a positive direction through divorce.  Contact me today about a free 1/2 hour consultation to discuss what options are available to help you obtain a divorce with dignity.

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